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Words don’t describe, they create

The things that happen to us are meaningless.

It’s only once we put words to it that we create a meaning.

“That destroyed me when he said that”

Vs.

“I was intrigued by how he came to that when he said that”

This isn’t just optimism or a good spin on things.

Your words have the power to create or destroy.

To lift you up or make you feel helpless.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking your words describe your reality.

Realise that you create your reality with your words.

Learning and emotion

As an actor, I’ve often been challenged by learning lines. Yesterday in acting class I had a breakthrough.

The theory was simple: We absorb, learn, retain and are better able to recall things we learn in a highly emotional state.

Makes sense, right? We all remember minute details of where we were when we got the news of major life or world events.

It soaks in.

So in practice, our teacher Jon had a person feeding us a line auditorily. They held the script and read each line to the actor who was learning the text.

Importantly, when you’re the one learning the lines you have no visual reference of the text. So you’re not reaching internally to create an image of the text to recall it. You are hearing it, but that’s not what this technique encourages you to do either- you aren’t supposed to hear the word in your minds ‘ear’.

Instead, as we’re being fed the line, we are working extremely physically inside one of five actions that relate to emotions; essentially variations of pushing and pulling.

While we are working physically in this way, the line is fed to us, and we repeat the line over and over, using the words we’re saying to help us play our action of pushing or pulling. We are generating physicalised emotion with the body.

We continued this for 15 minutes per actor. And the lines went in, yes… but not in a way I’m used to.

When it came time to recall the text, I wasn’t grabbing at it the same way I usually do, it was more… seeping up from underneath. Coming up from underneath to support me. Much more like how ideas form into sentences for me in real life. It didn’t feel like I knew them, but as I said the first line, the next one came out and then the next and the next.

The best part was they came out differently every time (which is gold for an actor)

It changed a fundamental building block of my whole craft as an actor- how I learn lines. If this fundamental thing changes, I wonder what the trickle down effects are?

The three ingredients

I have a question for you: As a teacher, what do you find most difficult about making te ao Māori part of your day?

Many schools genuinely want to make te ao Māori an authentic, living part of daily school life…

…but often the challenge is not intention, it’s knowing how to turn that intention into something practical, consistent, and sustainable for busy staff.

That’s why I recorded this short video for you.

In it, I share 3 core ingredients I keep seeing in schools that are making real progress with embedding te ao Māori school-wide.

If this is something your school is working toward, I think you’ll get a lot from this video.

Prompts

People prompt Ai… why not prompt yourself?

We do it every day with the questions we ask: “Why is this so hard” tends to be a common one for people who have a difficult time with things.

“I wonder what will happen next” is a common prompt for the adventurous humans.

And the most creative? Well, It’s pretty straight forward; “What can I create out of this?”

Don’t leave the prompts for the robots- we are capable of far more than we think.

Your masterpiece

Actors choose verbs to play in scenes.

They might ‘press’ another character. Or they might ‘interrogate’ them.

It occurs to me that we unwittingly have verbs in life too. The words we choose dictate how we show up in the world- just like an actor in a scene. Actors are very intentional about it, but in normal life we aren’t.

Are you ‘getting through’ the day or ‘dancing through’ it?

Are you going to the office to ‘slog it out’ or are you going to ‘play’?

There’s power in this kind of intention. Don’t leave it to the actors; make your life a masterpiece of a play, written daily by you.

Awesome

I like thinking about the true meaning of words.

We overuse many words- I think we all went through a phase of saying everything was “raaaandom”

One that really get’s thrown around is “awesome”… and look I don’t mind it.

But remember what it means. Awesome. The thing you’re referring to makes you feel awe. It is literally awe inspiring. It’s not ‘neat’ it invokes AWE.

I think that’s awesome.

Best worst

My acting mentor has a great phrase he often uses when directing.

He’ll say: “Show me your best worst version of…”

And then he’ll add whatever he wants me to try out.

Your ‘best worst’ means to do the best you can at the worst version of the thing.

It lowers the bar, it asks you to be bad and gives you permission.

In acting, like many endeavors, you have to start somewhere… and that somewhere is probably not going to be Oscar winning.

So don’t try and be awesome. Just give me the best version of the worst version you possibly can.

It might, be good. But it better not be, I asked for best worst!

What’s good?

I love when people greet others with ‘what’s good?’

It’s kind of cool and I don’t really know what it means in that context.

But I like what it makes me think of. What’s good? A cup of tea on a rainy day.

What’s good? A grilled cheese sandwich.

What’s good? So many things!

We get what we ask for. I’d like to ask myself what’s good more often.

Do

I’m enjoying the effect simple language changes has on the way I perceive the world and myself in it.

Here’s one I just noticed.

“Try my best” vs. “Do my best”

They could be seen interchangeable. But as Yoda himself knows, there’s a world of difference between try and do.

Don’t “try” to. DO your best.

Get to

One of the simplest shifts in language has massively changed my life.

I found myself saying things like “I have to do the show tonight” or “I have to go to that meeting”.

Shows and meetings are part of the life I’ve designed for myself- so “have to” doesn’t ring as true for me.

“Have to” is against your will. It’s reluctant. It’s “Okay, fine I’ll do that”

None of these belong in the life I want. And the good news is, we can use language te remind ourselves each moment that we have a choice.

Switch your “have to” to a “get to”.

“I get to do the show tonight”

“I get to go to that meeting”

Look at all you get to do. How lucky are we?

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