A time to take action and a time to rest
September 3, 2026
It seems a lot of your 30s is knowing the difference and getting the balance right.
How do you know?
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Choices
As if it’s your birthday
September 1, 2026
Remember when you were young and you used to count down the days until Christmas and your birthday?
Remember that feeling? It’s my birthday soon and I’ve been trying to recreate this sense of giddy excitement in anticipation.
It seems to be very possible just to create this feeling if you’re willing to…
How would your life change is you felt like that on a regualt basis?
Take your own advice
August 29, 2026
The advice you give someone else is often the advice you need to follow yourself.
I mean, I find this is true with everything I write on here…
Given the option, I’ll flake out
August 18, 2026
Have you ever made a plan with a friend to go out, and in the lead-up you know that if you hadn’t made the plan, you probably wouldn’t leave the house?
It’s cozier inside. Less resistance, less energy spent getting ready. And the truth is, both options are genuinely good. Home is comfortable. Out might mean a great night, a deeper connection, being there for something your friend needs. When both are good, we take the path of least resistance.
You know the feeling when they text an hour before: “can we rain check, I can’t do it”? That rush of relief. Now you don’t have to go out.
That’s the tell. Given the option, most of us will flake, even though there’s so much to gain from doing the thing.
So I think it’s important to make commitments outside ourselves, to people or structures that hold us to things that aren’t easy or comfortable. Because left to our own devices, we’ll take the out every time.
Know what game you’re playing
August 16, 2026
The other day I was scrolling and landed on one of those YouTube shorts, a couple of guys who started a pizza business. But instead of doing the obvious thing, opening their own brick-and-mortar shop like every other pizza place, they went to petrol stations. Petrol stations were already everywhere. Already built, already trafficked, already trusted. So instead of building their own version of that, they put pizza ovens inside them, put their own staff in there, and piggybacked off infrastructure that already existed. That was the whole idea of the video: you don’t have to build your own building. These guys grew exponentially just by thinking differently about where the game gets played.
And I watched that and thought, that’s such a good idea.
And then, I’ll be honest, for about thirty seconds I caught myself actually wondering if I should start a pizza restaurant out of petrol stations here. Which, when I say it out loud, is obviously ridiculous. But it’s worth pausing on why my brain went there, because I don’t think it’s actually about pizza.
It’s easy to think “I’m in business, this is about business, so this is basically the same thing as what I’m doing.” And it is similar, on the surface — I’m providing value to people, I’m helping them get better outcomes, I’m building something people didn’t have before. That’s not nothing. But it’s also a completely different game underneath. Selling pizza through existing infrastructure and helping people implement real change in their lives are not the same set of rules, even though they rhyme.
That’s the thing I want to name here: it’s really important to know what game you’re playing. And when you come across another game that rhymes with yours — same energy, similar shape, a clever move that clearly worked for someone else — it’s worth checking whether it’s actually your game, or just a game that looks like yours from a distance.
Because if you get enticed by something like that, you’ve got two honest options. One — you actually want to change games, and if that’s true, at least know that’s what you’re doing, with your eyes open. Or two — you don’t want to change games at all, you just spotted something useful. In that case, don’t take the whole game. Take the element. Pull out the principle that made it work and see if it applies inside the rules you’re actually playing by.
What you shouldn’t do is get sidetracked chasing something because it looks easier, or looks like it’s growing faster, or looks smarter — when really it’s just different. Different isn’t better. It’s just a different set of rules for a different game.
So know the difference. Know what game you’re playing. And stay in it.
Obstacle and Intention
August 15, 2026
This is the one reason why everyone in the entire world loves movies. It’s called obstacle and intention.
A character has a thing they want to do, an intention. And they have an obstacle, something standing in their way. We love watching people overcome an obstacle to get their intention.
You’re in a movie called your life.
Thinking of it this way, obstacle and intention, is really useful because it helps us get clear about two things: A, our intention, what we want. And B, what is the obstacle?
Have you ever thought about what actually stands in your way? For instance, if you wanted to cut down on eating sugar, that’s your intention. Your obstacle might be that there’s just a lot of sugar lying around your house. Without this frame of obstacle and intention, you might not have even seen that obstacle so clearly.
Start treating your life a little bit like a movie. What is your intention? What’s the obstacle? And instead of just fighting the obstacle, you could just remove it and be the hero of your own story.
Stop Drifting
August 14, 2026
Ever feel like you’re drifting through life?
Here’s one thing I learned that changed everything for me: drifting through life, or drifting through an experience, comes when you don’t actually know what you want.
Have you ever heard someone say you can’t get where you want to go if you don’t know where you want to go? It’s like jumping in the car, opening Google Maps, but never putting in a destination. Just driving, and driving, and then wondering why you’re never getting there.
The thing that really, really helps me is to set an outcome, to set an intention. What that means is simply stating what you want.
If you wake up in the morning and you’re heading to work feeling bored or feeling angry, it’s probably because you’re just at the whim of whatever your day brings. Setting an outcome is being intentional about what you want that day to bring. It’s as simple as: today I want to find out three new facts about my coworker. Or, today I want to find a new way to have fun with my family.
Just simple little objectives you give yourself. And what that means is you’re not just at the whim of the day. You’ve set yourself a destination.
Stop drifting through life. Set an outcome for the day.
We always have a choice
August 6, 2026
I love to remember that we always have a choice. The other day I went and got a coffee, and it wasn’t that great. The service wasn’t good. I felt kind of like a nuisance.
I was walking home, my mum was there, and I was imagining forward to the conversation I was about to have. You know, “How was the new place? Did you try it out?”
And I’d say, “Oh, the service wasn’t very good,” I was collecting all of these complaints, and I was quite satisfied having all these kind of negative things to say, even though my experience wasn’t that great. And then I suddenly realized it’s kind of pointless.
Why have that conversation with my mum? ‘Because how it’s gonna is, “How was the coffee place?” “Not that great.” … “Oh.”
It kind of kills energy in a way. So instead my mum asked, “How was the coffee place?” And I said, “Great.”
And then we kind of moved on.
It’s like the interactum- it’s like the interaction was additive as opposed to subtracting to the general energy of our day. And it makes me think, you know, we always do have a choice.
Even if we do have a not great experience, we can choose our orientation to it or just move on
I just heard Derren Brown say…
August 2, 2026
This is the only life we have and we if can engage with it charismatically we’ll get the best out of it and put the best into it.
If you don’t go you won’t know
July 30, 2026
The other day I booked some private rehearsal space to prepare for a show I’m about to do.
Because I was committed to only myself, I nearly didn’t go.
But I’m glad I did because I made some character discoveries that could only have happened with that quality of time, space and focus alone.
If I didn’t go, I may never have found that new thing (or it may have come up in another way too late)
The point is, if I didn’t go I wouldn’t know. I shudder to think of growth that I have missed out on because I didn’t show up to things like this.
There’s only one way to know- GO.
