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Actions and outcomes

I just watched an episode of Grand Designs UK (my favourite).

It was one of those episodes where the house doesn’t get finished. I think it may even be one of the longest builds on the show.

There was something I noticed in the language of the guy building the house. He said he would ‘tinker’ away at the build over the next ‘little while’.

When I picked up on these language patterns, I understood why the build took so long. Now, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with tinkering or with taking a long time on projects. We can all do whatever we like.

What I’m interested in is effectively meeting our outcomes as determined by ourselves.

All we need to do it make sure our actions match our outcomes.

If you want to enjoy a build that is a long labour of love, then to ‘tinker’ is quite an appropriate verb.

But if you want to get it built in three months and to high spec- you might want to choose another word.

Actors choose action verbs in their work. Different action verbs activate us in different ways.

What do you want and what are the action words you’ll choose to get there?

Blankets

Blanket statements- like other types of blankets- can give us security and a sense of safety.

“I don’t listen to advice from HER.”

“I never do things like THAT.”

While they can give us certainty (highly prized for us humans) they can also cut us off from other possibilities.

SHE might have some great advice.

You might grow a little doing something like THAT.

Blankets have a funny way of covering everything. A blanket doesn’t always let you see the nuance.

But if you’re brave enough to emerge from the warmth of your blanket, you’ll see the nuance. And in that nuance lies the possibility for more.

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