State
You cannot judge people based on the state they are in.
They may be hungry
tired
or maybe had too much sugar earlier.
It’s generous to give people the benefit of the doubt
You cannot judge people based on the state they are in.
They may be hungry
tired
or maybe had too much sugar earlier.
It’s generous to give people the benefit of the doubt
You want to teach more te reo in your class but you find yourself stuck on ‘kei te pēhea koe’. You decide you need to upskill! You find a te reo night class- great! You dedicate a couple of hours a night to learning the language and even manage to create some lesson plans for your students.
As teachers, we all want to be well informed. We want to have all the facts. We want to bring a level of expertise to the table so we can stand with confidence in front of our class, field any questions and extend the learning together in the uniquely alive environment of a classroom full of curious kids.
We want to be the experts in the room.
Don’t we all?
I mean surely we have to know everything about a subject before we teach it…right?
The truth is, expertise in any field is hard to define, time consuming to attain and just when you think you get ‘there’ there’s even more to learn.
It’s the beautiful thing about learning, but it’s a trap for teachers.
The real magic in teaching comes from releasing the need to be an expert. The most powerful educators I’ve seen in action weren’t experts, they were outstanding facilitators.
This need for expertise is even more rampant in New Zealand primary schools when it comes to te ao Māori. And trust me, I get it. To say the Māori people and language has been through a lot the last couple of centuries is an understatement. So this need to ‘get it exactly right’ makes complete sense. Teachers want to respect the Māori culture. They want to do right by our heritage and they definitely do not want to disrespect the culture.
Sometimes this prompts personal learning journeys for teachers; they deeply explore the language, the culture and their own relationship to it as a New Zealander.
Other times it creates a paralysis in teachers. They don’t have the time or the resources to become proficient in the language or reach a level where they would be comfortable to pass it onto their students.
While it appears that this is respect in action, it actually has the opposite effect. When we are afraid of getting it wrong as teachers, we pass down this fear to our students. They inherit this fear, the culture doesn’t get passed on and we create a whole new generation of people who do not claim or celebrate te ao Māori as our unique national asset.
I think we instinctively realise that we can’t know it all before we dive into something. We’d be stuck with most things if this were the case. We have to make do with what we have, right? Can you think of a time where you taught something without needing all the answers?
I certainly can…
When I was fresh out of drama school, I found myself teaching a night class for non-actors. I was 23 and felt out of my depth. I had to teach adults (some of whom were 20 years older than me) how to act.
Keep in mind, I had just graduated and after the whirlwind three years I actually felt more confused about acting than when I started. I didn’t feel like I knew nearly enough to teach a weekly two hour night class to 30 people!
I think the secret fear I had was that I would have to demonstrate ‘great’ acting and that just made me want to vomit. “I’m just as confused as you all are!” is all I wanted to shout.
It was my mentor that gave me the advice I’m giving you now. He told me I didn’t need to know it all. He told me I just had to hold space for the learning to happen.
Whoa. That’s good. “Hold space for learning to happen” …
“Well I can do that” I thought.
I gathered some of the exercises from acting school that interested me most and took them along to my first class.
He told me I didn’t need to know it all. He told me I just had to hold space for the learning to happen.
With my fresh perspective, I positioned myself as the one who brought the proverbial soccer ball and goal nets.
“I’m not the best in the world, but hey here’s the equipment we need to learn together”
I taught that class for a year and we had an outstanding experience. My ‘students’ grew not because I’m so great, but because I facilitated space for us all to try things out together.
Now I wasn’t ‘winging’ it. I knew our outcomes and had some ideas I wanted us to explore together. But I also didn’t pour hours into late night googling to have impressive facts to sound smart.
I just made a space in which excellent learning could take place; and last I checked us teachers are really good at that.
This is the same strategy I see in the most successful teachers we work with at Online Kapa Haka, they aren’t the teachers who know the most, they are the ones who let go of that need and pour all their effort into facilitating world class learning environments.
While the biggest part of implementing this is a perspective shift, here are a few practical steps you can do now to get the benefits immediately:
Step 1: Decide. Decide to release the need to be an expert.
Step 2: Clarify. Have a clearly defined question or outcome going into the class; What will we all learn together?
Step 3: Resource. Gather as much resource as you can to explore together with your students- not to cram before the lesson, but to use together.
Step 4: Environment. Create an environment conducive to trying things out. Ask your students what you can all expect of each other and how you all should behave in pursuit of that.
Step 5: Explore. With curiosity, explore the resources together and find the learning outcome together live in the room
If this feels uncomfortable to you, you’re not alone. Looking at this as a lesson plan makes me squirm a little bit too. What could look like a lack of preparation is actually yielding to the life of the classroom. Just like an actor shouldn’t over-prepare for a scene, so too should a teacher avoid killing the magic of learning by overcooking the lesson prep. The learning happens live in the room, not on the computer screen the night before.
You might also be thinking “Great, well where do I find the right resources?!”
In most cases it isn’t a lack of resource that trips teachers up but a lack of resourcefulness. Get more interested in the intention of your lesson and the environment you create and let that steer you to find resources that ignite those lessons.
The next time you feel that niggling feeling like you need to know more, remember that you only need to provide the tools and environment for learning to take place. Focus on being a world class facilitator, someone who makes magical and lively learning happen daily; because you’re already an expert at that.
I have a question for you: As a teacher, what do you find most difficult about making te ao Māori part of your day?
Many schools genuinely want to make te ao Māori an authentic, living part of daily school life…
…but often the challenge is not intention, it’s knowing how to turn that intention into something practical, consistent, and sustainable for busy staff.
That’s why I recorded this short video for you.
In it, I share 3 core ingredients I keep seeing in schools that are making real progress with embedding te ao Māori school-wide.
If this is something your school is working toward, I think you’ll get a lot from this video.
It’s new years day and you have a big beautiful piece of paper in front of you. It’s got scribbles in different colours with words and sentences of all different sizes; this is you LIFE PLAN.
It’s so exciting! You can see it all there in front of you. The energy of the fresh cup of coffee coupled with the momentum of the first day of January has hit you hard and this grand plan represents your entire vision.
This was me on new years day- I had the added inspiration of being on the beach at Oakura Bay in the north of New Zealand. My inspiration quickly turned to overwhelm. I had no trouble getting all my visions and goals down on the page. But just a few hours later I looked at the page again. What was once a battery pack that charged me up with energy now seemed like the opposite- I felt drained and daunted by what lay in front of me.
Inspiration isn’t enough.
Being inspired feels great, doesn’t it? New Years Day does it, but we see these moments in other bursts throughout the year too. The beginning of term or the start of a new flashy program at school… these ‘launch’ moments have a tendency to burn bright and burn fast. The problem isn’t the vision, we need a clear direction. The problem is too much too soon.
One of the grand goals I had was for the kids I was teaching to have a full Te Reo exchange with me at the beginning of class. I barreled into our first session together and began laying out a multi-step greeting and conversation exchange… It felt exciting and new and I got some great initial progress. But the next time I went in, the kids had forgotten and each subsequent lesson I had to start from scratch. The kids were over chunked; it was too much too soon.
Out of frustration one day, I decided to drop it. So I just did the opening greeting. Some of them remembered it… cool! I drilled it again for those still not confident. The next few lessons I just did the same.
What I’d hoped would take me one lesson actually took more like six- but I was stoked.
I learned to use the moments of inspiration as the ‘lift off’ and chunk down the subsequent bits. It doesn’t all have to feel like the raging fire of a rocket taking off.
Sometimes it’s just striking a match.
And when you strike enough of them, you get a pretty bright light.
When I was 23 I was tasked with teaching 30 adults how to act- I felt completely out of my depth.
It was a weekly class; two hours each Thursday night. I was only a couple of years out of drama school but the thing that really got me was that the oldest of my ‘students’ was 45.
I felt completely unqualified to teach this class. Despite my three years of actor training, I didn’t think I had any wisdom to share with these people- I was hardly an expert! And besides that, I felt like a kid compared to the people I’d be teaching who had full on careers and families.
My mentor from drama school was the one that changed my whole perspective. He told me I didn’t need to be some zen master of acting to run this class. He said “You know a lot of acting exercises, right?”
I said “yeah”.
He said “And you know the learning embedded in the exercises, right?”
I said “Of course”
“Then that’s all you need. You don’t need to be the best at archery, you just need to bring a bow, some arrows and a target. Then you can all do target practice together”
This changed everything. I realised I didn’t need to be an expert. I just had to bring what I did know and we could all explore the learning together.
The weight lifted off my shoulders and I walked into that class with confidence. And the confidence didn’t come from knowing everything, it came from knowing enough and having a willingness to learn more.
That’s all we ever need. I take this same mentality into every environment where I teach or learn.
You’ve just rehearsed your big presentation in front of your boss.
Hours of prep went into it.
You were nervous but you did your best.
And you know what? You think you did pretty good.
(You even improvised a great little joke.)
Your boss pulls you aside…
…and proceeds to give you pages and pages of specific notes.
Improvements. Words to change. Things to make clearer. When to pause.
You know the notes are there to help you…
but you can’t help but feel a little overwhelmed.
I had this exact experience after a final rehearsal for a theatre show.
We did a full run.
Then our director sat us down.
And we all had detailed notes to take into opening night.
I’m a perfectionist.
I take pride in my work as an actor.
So I scribbled every note down.
Trying to capture each valuable takeaway.
But with each passing bullet point…
I felt less and less able to actually make any of these changes.
By the end, I was holding it together.
Telling myself I’d re-read everything later that night.
Then again in the morning.
All while fighting the panic of trying to integrate this into a performance…
in front of hundreds of people the next night.
Our director ended the session with a smile.
He knew it was a lot.
We all knew it was to make the show better.
Then he said something that completely removed the weight sitting on my chest:
“Look guys, I don’t expect you to get all these right tomorrow night — or ever.
And as you’re performing you’ll notice you’ve missed some bits and nailed others… that’s okay.
All these notes are in service of one thing: finding the life.
All we’re asking is… is it alive?”
Is it alive.
That was it.
The notes and adjustments were only ever there to find the life.
There are hundreds of details and hours of work that go into anything we do.
When I’m in the classroom, this is true.
When I’m acting on stage, this is true.
But it’s all in service of just one thing: life.
We’re just bringing the thing to life.
We want the people we’re working with to feel something.
To connect to it.
That’s it.
I love pouring energy and passion into the details.
But there comes a point where you have to let it go…
and come back to one question:
Is it alive?
What is a sparkle noticer?
It’s what I call the people out in the world that notice real presence. I’ve been to 5 different states in the US across the past few months and everywhere I go I’m trying to make connections with strangers.
Buying a coffee, passing a stranger, getting in a lift; these are all opportunities to connect with another human.
And the rule is you can’t just say hi and look away.
You have to actually be present. You have to SPARKLE.
Sadly, most people are quite closed off to strangers. I turn on my sparkliest most present eyes and give them a sweet little hello… and there’s often not a response.
And that’s okay! I get it, it’s a bit weird.
But now and then… you get a sparkle noticer.
Someone who catches the sparkle and notices the real life presence you’re bringing to a moment.
They see you seeing them and thus you see each other!
The goal for me isn’t to be the person always saying hi with a warm smile.
The goal is to become the person who notices the sparkles when they fly my way.
We all get caught up and walled off day to day. But if we let ourselves, we can be a sparkle noticer and the world is a deliciously good place when you let that in.
I’m a big believer in wrapping paper.
I’m mostly fine with people speaking their mind. If I’m in the way, tell me. If I’m being too loud, please let me know.
My problem comes when people put it in the wrong wrapping paper.
For example, someone is speaking a little too loud. You can tell them to ‘shut up’. Or you can gently let them know know.
It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
You can say the difficult thing, but you can do it with kindness, levity and generosity.
I’m a BIG believer in wrapping paper.
The golden goose of any initiative is implementation.
Starting out, it’s up to us to get ourselves to follow through on the work we know needs to get done. We have to work out what it takes for us to do the hard thing.
We find that ‘pushing through’ isn’t sustainable. Eventually we find a reason that drives us.
Whether it’s a diet, a new skill to learn or a formidable project- we each find our own way in to get it done.
When we lead others, we come up against the same challenge- how do we get people to follow through?
How do we get others to own outcomes and claim autonomy in their work? There’s a lot of things that help, sure; clarity of objective, clear milstone tracking, step by step systems, authority to make choices… all of these things contribute to the work getting done.
But those are all the tools- just like when we were doing it on our own we all needed tools. But if all it required were tools it would be easy.
Like you discovered on your own, you need heart. What do I mean? Well it needs to hook onto the thing that we value most. That’s how we bring heart to our work.
Why do I teach? I teach because I love bringing possibility to life for young people. I love learning and I love growing and I love contributing to something bigger than myself. Those are called values, by the way. Values are a steam train zooming off into the sunset and our outcomes are the things we hook on the back of that train.
Values are our own power source. The same is true for those we lead. It’s not enough to give excellent tools, protocols and outcomes- we have to hook it to their steam train.
What does this person value most? Don’t guess, get in conversation and ask them. It’s in the language; “My work is about X” or “The most important thing for this is Y”.
Find their values and align the job to that.
This is the never ending power source that gets the job done and has them fulfilled in the process. And that’s WAY better than merely implementing something.
We all want to work for a meaningful cause. Implementation… sure.
But doing meaningful work in the world with people that care?
That’s where it’s really at.
There’s a belief I’ve battled with in the past that if we make learning fun, it undercuts the seriousness of the subject.
Whenever I have an internal conflict like this I always come back to outcome. What is this really about? What are we trying to do?
Well with the learning I deliver, my big bold outcome is to bring it to life for the kids. Words can also betray us a bit here, because you hear a word like ‘fun’ and that might conjure images of a hectic classroom, a ball bouncing off a window and no one listening to each other.
So maybe the word ‘fun’ isn’t the right word.
What I’m really looking for is life.
There is life in a kid’s eye when they are transfixed by a giant digger doing construction next door. There is life in their eye when they notice an adult is in a bad mood. And there is indeed life when they are learning something they love.
The only thing that can trivialise learning is a trivial intention.
If you’re looking to make ‘fun’ of something, yeah you’re probably going to be a bit disrespectful.
If you’re looking to bring something to life, though? Well now you’re playing a game I like. And there are a million and one ways to bring something to life. There are quiet ways, big ways, busy ways and gentle ways.
Let’s take seriously our job to create vibrant, living connections to the learning we share.
That sounds fun to me