We all have rules whether we know them or not.
We have rules for what has to happen for us to feel successful, to have fun or to feel appreciated.
A good way of finding your rules is to ask yourself: “What has to happen in order for me to feel ____”
And put any desired state in there…
To feel appreciated, for instance you might have to be told you’re awesome, or you might need people to see the work you’ve done and know how long it took you. Or you might be one of the lucky ones who just need to look at themselves in the mirror and smile to feel appreciated.
I say ‘lucky ones’… but the truth is, we’re in charge of our rules.
There’s nothing that says you can’t feel successful every time you take 5 minutes to be grateful.
There’s no rule that says you can’t feel deeply valued every time you show someone else they are deeply valued.
We’re the bosses, y’all. We get to choose the rules.
And while we’re at it, we might as well set ourselves and others up to win.
