When I was a kid, I thought that the person who was making the most noise in the room was not the person you wanted to be. The person who stands up in class and says “I’ll go first”. Or the kid who actually has an opinion on something.
The problem with that, is it lacked nuance. Being loud is not synonymous with being arrogant. Being decisive or opinionated does not make you narcissistic.
But as I find myself in more rooms of people trying to do their work, I find the loud ones are the most generous.
-Who has an idea?
I do.
-What should we do first?
Let’s do this
-Who can show the new guy around?
Hey new person, my name is Susan!
Be lovingly loud. Openly big. That’s the most generous way of being.
