We all have rules.
Rules that state what has to happen for us to feel a certain way or experience a valued state.
What has to happen for you to feel like a valued team member? Questions like this will help you uncover your rules, by the way.
You might discover they empower you or you might discover they’re quite difficult to meet.
In order to feel like a success, for instance, you might have a rule that says people need to tell you you’re great all the time. This rule is good when it’s met, but you could end up feeling pretty bad when you don’t receive that external validation.
It’s worthwhile exploring our rules, I’ve found most of my discomfort or upsets in life stem from rules that are not setting me up to win.
Here’s the question again to help you find yours:
What has to happen(rule) in order for you to feel X (value/ desired end state)?
You’re the game master and you get to make the rules.
